I think we can all agree that there is no worst feeling in the world than being judged.
We’ve all been there. We’re constantly being judged by others. At work, at school, with friends, and on social media. We are judged for how we dress, what we say, how we interact, how we work, and how we play. We live in a world that is constantly picking us apart; a world that is in our business and thinks they know what’s best for us. In return, we feed off these judgements and let them define us. We are quick to judge others and do the same thing to others that hurts us.
Let’s be real. Getting judged fvckin hurts. We try to be the best versions of ourselves, and sometimes it’s not good enough. We try to look our best, say the right thing, and do what is best for us, but there is always that one person who doesn’t approve. I personally struggle hardcore with being judged. Because I tend to be a people-pleaser and worry about what others think of me, my greatest fear is getting judged. And I certainly have been a victim of judgement in the past: Which most of the time, becoming contradicting.
She parties too much // She never goes out anymore.
She swears too much // She’s a goody two shoes .
She doesn’t go to church enough // she acts like she knows everything.
You’re damned if you do, and damned if you don’t.
The funny thing is, people think they know you, but they really don’t. Sometimes, I just want to interject and say, Excuse me, but who the hell do you think you are? Do you know my story? Have you walked in my shoes? Do you know my desires, my goals, and my thought process? Do you know why I make the decisions that I do, and say the things I do?
We are all human. We all deserve to be happy and to make our own decisions without feeling the need to validate those to others.
When you are forming judgements about someone, little do you know what harm you’re actually doing to yourself. When you build yourself up by bringing others down, this shows me that you don’t have much self-respect, confidence, or intelligence. There is a need deep down within you that needs to be satisfied by making others feel inferior to you.
I’m not going to act all high and mighty and act like I don’t judge others, because I do. I think judging others is a part of human nature, and anyone who says that they have never judged anyone in their life is a liar. However, this doesn’t excuse our actions. We need to check ourselves each time we form these judgements. Ask yourself: Why are you making a judgement about someone? Do you really know what this person is going through, or know what they have gone through in the past? How are you going to benefit from judging this person?
Our lives are too short to deal with this cycle of bullshit. Can we all just please stop judging each other? Live your life, and don’t worry about anyone else but yourself.
How do you want to leave your mark in this world?
“When you judge another, you do not define them. You define yourself.” – Wayne Dyer
Peace and love,
