Can you stop your heart from beating when you see your crush walking past you?
Can you stop thinking if it is possible if you and your crush to be together?
Can you stop from loving someone even if that person broke your heart into pieces?
Well, a fresh brokenhearted person MIGHT say “yes,” but I think the answer is really “no.”
I asked few of my friends about it and then following it with question. Hearing different opinions on the matter made me more motivated than ever to write.
Love is a funny thing. It is full of ups and downs.
But love in totality is God.
Yet, I do not want to dwell on that matter, but rather, on the matter of romantic love. Is love a bitch? Or is it something that you are willing to die for?
My professor mentioned this:
Someone said to me that, “Ang opposite sa love is indifference, hindi hate.” [The opposite of love is indifference, not hate.] Many people associate the opposite of love is hate. When you know your boyfriend cheated on you, you might say, “I hate that guy for cheating on me.” But for this person, love’s opposite is indifference that is because he believes that you will just care less, but not totally hate that him. Maybe what you hate is not the person but what that person did. Maybe because you wanna think that you hate him to forget the pain you’re feeling. Maybe—but it’s you who could know what is and what is not.
Love is a feeling; that there are forms of love wherein that can change [the form of love]. Even my Psychology professor said that all feelings are not dictated in the bottom of your heart, rather, on the hypothalamus. So, it seems that as rational beings, we think that it is a mere feeling that you can just shove if you want to.
Another person answered me back with a question saying why would you love someone who can’t love you back? I was stunned to the point I don’t know what to reply but thanking him for answering the question because I believe he has a point. Before, I would also advice my friends to why keep chasing a person who you love but could never love you back they way you love him/her? It’s like chasing your own tail and in the end you’ll end up tiring yourself, won’t you? So, what’s the point, right? I think that’s what my friend wanted to tell me.
Another friend of mine told me that yes, you can stop yourself from loving someone that is because new people come and then that can let you forget the past.
But can you really forget the past?
For those who answered “no” to my question, all their thoughts say one thing:
The memories will always remain. No matter how bad the ending was – these memories are living inside of us. It is already part of us and no matter how much we deny it; there will always be lingering feelings because of those memories.
Like what my fellow friend said,
I believe that everything that happens to our lives there is a corresponding reason as to why it happened.
But, no one should be trapped in the past. No one should dwell on the feelings that will never be given back.
Why?
Because you deserve more! You deserve better. You may say that “he/she is the one,” but maybe he/she is not just the one. Maybe your red strings aren’t connected. Maybe he/she is already beside you but too ignorant to even notice him/her. Maybe you’ll bump into him/her somewhere you least expect to. Maybe – just maybe…
We actually don’t know who, where and when we will exactly find the one, but this is what I tell you…
Even if you have already experienced a lot of unrequited love or heartbreaks, these shouldn’t be the reason for you to stop loving. Love more because I believe that it brightens up your day than being gloomy and sad over it.
Learn from your mistakes and as much as possible never commit the same mistake again. Be wiser and be stronger at the same time. Don’t fall for petty little games again.
If everything seems nowhere to go, believe that God has a plan for you. Don’t think that because one thing failed everything fails at the same time. Everything will eventually happen in the right time.
So, what if you have a lot of heartbreaks in the past, this should not stop you from being you and from loving. Always look on the bright side of life. Always… always love – love yourself first, and then love others.
💜 Hope this helps!!
I asked few of my friends about it and then following it with question. Hearing different opinions on the matter made me more motivated than ever to write.
Love is a funny thing. It is full of ups and downs.
But love in totality is God.
Yet, I do not want to dwell on that matter, but rather, on the matter of romantic love. Is love a bitch? Or is it something that you are willing to die for?
My professor mentioned this:
As Mr P defined: “Love is the will to extend one’s self for the purpose of nurturing one’s own or another’s spiritual growth… Love is as love does. Love is an act of will — namely, both an intention and an action. Will also implies choice. We do not have to love. We choose to love.”We have different opinions of what love is. But my real question is, can you stop yourself from loving someone? Or do you keep loving even if you know the hurtful things it brings?
Someone said to me that, “Ang opposite sa love is indifference, hindi hate.” [The opposite of love is indifference, not hate.] Many people associate the opposite of love is hate. When you know your boyfriend cheated on you, you might say, “I hate that guy for cheating on me.” But for this person, love’s opposite is indifference that is because he believes that you will just care less, but not totally hate that him. Maybe what you hate is not the person but what that person did. Maybe because you wanna think that you hate him to forget the pain you’re feeling. Maybe—but it’s you who could know what is and what is not.
Love is a feeling; that there are forms of love wherein that can change [the form of love]. Even my Psychology professor said that all feelings are not dictated in the bottom of your heart, rather, on the hypothalamus. So, it seems that as rational beings, we think that it is a mere feeling that you can just shove if you want to.
Another person answered me back with a question saying why would you love someone who can’t love you back? I was stunned to the point I don’t know what to reply but thanking him for answering the question because I believe he has a point. Before, I would also advice my friends to why keep chasing a person who you love but could never love you back they way you love him/her? It’s like chasing your own tail and in the end you’ll end up tiring yourself, won’t you? So, what’s the point, right? I think that’s what my friend wanted to tell me.
Another friend of mine told me that yes, you can stop yourself from loving someone that is because new people come and then that can let you forget the past.
But can you really forget the past?
For those who answered “no” to my question, all their thoughts say one thing:
The memories will always remain. No matter how bad the ending was – these memories are living inside of us. It is already part of us and no matter how much we deny it; there will always be lingering feelings because of those memories.
Like what my fellow friend said,
They’ve been a part of you. You still share memories with them, and in such a way they have contributed to who you are as a person right now. So maybe you’ll forget about them. If they hurt you, you might hate them, but you still yearn for that person in your life because maybe once or twice they’ve made you smile.I personally answer the question “no,” It’s the exact same reason. I am actually thankful because I got to be who I am today. I got to be stronger and wiser than the “me” before. So, it may have been the worst feeling ever but I cannot deny the fact that because of that experience I’ve learned something.
I believe that everything that happens to our lives there is a corresponding reason as to why it happened.
But, no one should be trapped in the past. No one should dwell on the feelings that will never be given back.
Why?
Because you deserve more! You deserve better. You may say that “he/she is the one,” but maybe he/she is not just the one. Maybe your red strings aren’t connected. Maybe he/she is already beside you but too ignorant to even notice him/her. Maybe you’ll bump into him/her somewhere you least expect to. Maybe – just maybe…
We actually don’t know who, where and when we will exactly find the one, but this is what I tell you…
Don’t stop loving!
Even if you have already experienced a lot of unrequited love or heartbreaks, these shouldn’t be the reason for you to stop loving. Love more because I believe that it brightens up your day than being gloomy and sad over it.
Learn from your mistakes.
Learn from your mistakes and as much as possible never commit the same mistake again. Be wiser and be stronger at the same time. Don’t fall for petty little games again.
Believe in God!
If everything seems nowhere to go, believe that God has a plan for you. Don’t think that because one thing failed everything fails at the same time. Everything will eventually happen in the right time.
So, what if you have a lot of heartbreaks in the past, this should not stop you from being you and from loving. Always look on the bright side of life. Always… always love – love yourself first, and then love others.
💜 Hope this helps!!
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