Big girls cry when their hearts are breaking.. Have you ever heard this song from SIA? That we are living in such an agony, lead us to a miserable life whether it is due to our disappointment in love, life, family, work or anything else…
The point is people around us tell us not to cry, but to be strong. How can we become strong when we are the low point in our life.. Instead, we can only cry and succumb to the pain in the corner of our room or maybe the corner of our hearts.
It is actually okay to cry your heart out when you are in pain. it is okay to grieve for the time being. We are human after all. Of course you can lie to yourself that you don’t feel the pain, but you are going to be numb and the aftermath when you finally break down will be much worse. Is that what you want? To dismiss the pain just to let it magnified?
It is a beautiful thing when people become vulnerable, they know what’s going inside of them and take care of that feeling. Not everyone has the courage to do so, to open the door of their heart knowing that they might get hurt..
When I got hurt so badly, I felt that everything in my life was wrong. In fact, there was only this one part of my life is flawed, but I can’t see the good parts because I’m too focus on the bad parts. All of my energy was being sucked up by the negativity. After being in that whirlwind for quite some time, I found my resilience.
How? I cried so many times, and I cried it all out until finally there was no tears left and I finally feel much stronger and can think clearly. Yes, I made a mistake, but I learn from it so that I won’t make the same mistake ever again. Yes, the scar is still raw and sometimes I get irritated easily but still, I try to make a good things out of that feeling like helping others in need and not take things for granted. If there is something I can do in my life, I will do it wholeheartedly. If there is nothing that I can do, then I’ll just go with whatever it is.
There came a day when I realize that being in that dark place won’t do me any good. It will be much harder for me to get back up if I stay in that dark place for too long.
We will need helping hands, kind hearts, warmth from our surroundings to rise again. It’s not an easy thing to do, especially when we can’t see the light in our dark endless tunnel. But we have to be positive, to believe that we are going to see the light, that we are going to make it out alive. That’s what makes us stronger, make us a warrior, makes us strive as survivor.
