The Wink Makes You Go "Mmm"

So, I was talking to my friend Nuggets the other day (no, that’s not her real name) and we were talking about a situation in which I found myself internally saying Mmm. I love talking to my friends about things, because they know me well enough, and share enough of my idiosyncrasies that we can communicate in a series of unfinished sentences, looks and unintelligible noises. So the conversation goes like this....

Nuggets: okay so…

Me: mm-hmmmmm

Nuggets: I ordered a drink, and, I was just kinda watching the bartender make it.

Me: You do like to watch huh

Nuggets: So.. he’s making the drink, and I just cant stop myself from watching him, and…

Me: ooohhhhh

Nuggets: He catches me

Me: Yup

Nuggets: But then, he just looks up, kinda smiles… then winks

Me: OHHHHH-HOOOO!

Nuggets: RIGHT?!

Me: GIRL!

Nuggets:… yeah.

Me: Mmm

Nuggets: Exactly!

Winks are an important staple in nonverbal communication. But lest you think I get the water works every time one eye blinks, let me explain. There are many different kind of winks.

There’s the:

“Lets keep this between us” wink

“Cocky” wink

“This wasn’t thought through” wink

and etcetera(s)

No, what I’m talking about, is that ever elusive, perfectly executed wink. This will mean different things to different people. Maybe your perfect wink is one of the ones mentioned above. Maybe it’s something else. But for me, a perfectly executed wink is as such:

• First of all, it’s quick. Nothing against slow, tortuous winks, but my perfect wink is just quick enough to make you wonder if you imagined it. Maybe the person just blinked and you were only focused on one of their eyes, who knows?!
• The eyes should always start somewhere else. It’s like the person has been aware of your presence the entire time, but at that moment, when they knew you’d be watching, they lock eyes with you and deliver a shock to your system.
• It is also almost ALWAYS accompanied by a fraction of a smile. Now, the smile is not an accessory. It’s more like a companion of the wink. The smile can come before, it can come after, or it can last the duration, but it’s never a full on smile, in fact, it’s no more than .5 of a smile.
• And lastly, other than the smile, NOTHING else moves.

It’s like its own brand of telepathy. The reason it’s so sexy is because for that split second, your entire surrounding slows to a dead halt, and there’s nothing but you and this other person conveying a thought on a frequency high above the chaos of the world around you. It can be any thought… it can be as simple as “hey there”, but no matter what it is, for that one moment, it was for you only… and that is sexy.